Great Place for New Residents to Meet Predators
The atmosphere is inviting with Christmas lights, expensive candleholders, and plenty of empty, soft barstools - seemingly odd for nine-ish on a Friday night. The tender - friendly, and rightfully so with only about a handful of patrons within his vicinity. I asked him for something red to soak up the sadness of leaving two years in Hawai'i behind me to start over new in San Diego, and he gave me a ($10 a glass, mind you) Zin that slapped the mouth with cocoa as he kept repeating that the vines were 100 years old. The night would have been fine, if it had ended there. But one half of a couple of self-proclaimed regulars invited me over to their table, which I accepted since I know nobody in this town. He says that his friend had been admiring me, yadda yadda ya, and bearing the residue of a recently broken relationship, I felt that I had little to lose over just simple conversation. Little did I know that I was playing a part in a joke at my own expense. The drunken liar across from me began berating me with insulting questions as the tender hovered within earshot. It didn't take me too long to realize that the rather cold-shouldered, smug guy next to me did not, in fact, wish for me to join them and to erradicate any doubt, I simply asked him - "You didn't send your friend over to invite me to your table, did you?" He slammed his drink, and responded, "No..." Pause. "Would it have been better if I lied?" "No," I responded, embarassed beyond belief. I then awkwardly awaited for the tender to return from some duties in the cellar to pay for my $10 glass of wine that I traveled half an hour each way to painfully slurp down as I was humiliated before my very own eyes. Meanwhile, the dudes continued to make fun of an older lady at the end of the bar as I searched for my wallet and keys. So went my evening of first contact with the locals. Thank you so much, San Diegans, for making me feel so welcome, when I already felt so alone, in this new town.
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