I have never felt so demeaned and insulted by anybody, let alone at the hands of a man who is an expert in his field. I did some research on Dr. Behzadnia after getting home and it appears that Dr. Behzadnia is a deeply religious and conservative man. The relevance of this will come later.

Anyway, I am a 27-year old male who is healthy in most respects. I visited Dr. Behzadnia due to a low libido that has been continuing to plummet in recent years. My T levels were measured a week ago and I got a reading of 350, which by any standard is on the very low range of normal. He took one look at my results and quickly dismissed any sort of medical evaluation. It devolved into a 30-minute consultation on my psychological state.

I am a clean-cut guy who's not exactly living life on the edge. I have a stable career and I don't drink nor do dr*gs. However, I do have a six-year age gap between my girlfriend and I, and we do use toys in the bedroom. Whatever one's views may be, I think that it is safe to say that in 21st century America, s*x toys are commonplace and, as many studies have suggested, are a healthy way to enhance one's relationships.

I will try not to be too graphic as I'm not here to offend nor judge, but here were some of the gems that the doctor offered. He said many of these things with a critical and judgemental demeanor. As ridiculous as it sounds, at several points, he sneered at me for some of my answers. Anyway, out of context, but here were a few of his statements:

"If you have a girlfriend, you should never ma*turbate. It's no wonder you're having sexual dysfunction."

"A vibrator is totally inappropriate, especially at your age. It is not natural between a man and a woman. There is something wrong if you feel you must resort to it."

I apologize for abusing the system by creating multiple accounts, but I feel compelled to complete my write-up of this doctor.

He then proceeded to imply that the introduction of such toys was at my behest and had been done against the will of my partner, "Are you sure it is consensual? Does SHE ever ask for it?"

More gems: "Maybe this is not the girl you are going to marry. Maybe you should come back after you get married and we'll see if you still have a problem. Unfortunately, I cannot prescribe marriage for you."

He then went on to suggest that my issues could stem from the anxiety of having an adulterous girlfriend, "Well, you see each other only once every 2-3 weeks -- you don't know what she's doing or what she's with.."

"How about you go take a vacation and I bet suddenly you will be having s*x 3x per night!"

Furthermore, I was barred on every attempt I made to turn the conversation back to a more neutral setting, based on science and objectivity. Every time I spoke, he cut me off by saying that I needed to let him finish because he was the professional who'd been practicing for 40 years. Fine, except he never finished and he wasn't even willing to discuss the possibilities of differential diagnoses. He insisted that a level of 350 was perfectly normal, even though earlier in the convo he'd mentioned that there are many mechanisms that could lead to dysfunction. He refused to address those with me. He refused to contemplate alternative explanations.

I can't fault his medical analysis since every specialist operates by their own criterion and procedures. If he felt my levels were fine, I can accept that. What I could not accept was his insistence on imposing his moral stance upon me. On judging me and silently proclaiming that I'm a nut who has deep-seeded mental issues that are at the root of my low libido.

He ignored the fact that I am a healthy individual with a stable life who has no history of trauma nor mental illness of any sort. He ignored me when I mentioned that my low libido has given me much grief over the past several years. My last relationship of 2+ years unraveled due to the large variance in the s*x drives between my significant other and me. I told him that I'm afraid of history repeating itself. I told him that I'm a very self-aware individual who has already covered the psychological angles. I didn't go in looking for a prescription, I went in looking for insight into what may be causing my problems. Instead, I received a lecture that could've come straight from my father or from my high school pastor, except I could've received either one of those for free.

I could write another 20 paragraphs recapping my thoughts and feelings on my meeting with Dr. Behzadnia, but I will stop here. The short of it is even if he has the best of intentions and that no matter how caring of an individual he may be, he is not one who is open-minded and tolerant. He believes he knows best and will never be confused for a physician who is a strong advocate of his patients, which I find ironic given his religious upbringing and his practice in Islam and his childhood spent in Iran. I say this because I have many Persian friends and I find them to be some of the most tolerant people around.

Maybe the doctor was having a bad day, maybe not. To anyone who decides to pay a visit to Dr. Behzadnia, I bid you the best of luck.

Dr. Behzadnia is a brilliant doctor. he is both professional and personal. He cares not only for the person but also for your health. He is like a friend. He usually answers his own phone. He hours are a bit limited because he is semi-retired. He works on Saturday!